Age gaps in relationships

“Society seems to be obsessed with other peoples relationships – be it romantic or not – what I don’t understand is why? When it comes to age gaps in relationships there is generally the opinion of “daddy issues” or “mummy issues” plastered over it in a bit to make the relationship acceptable in others eye.”

Age gaps in relationships aren’t uncommon. There are 5 years between my mum and my dad with my mum being the younger of the two. My brother is older than his girlfriend by 4-5 years. My live in bestie is in a relationship with a man 10+ years older than her. It happens. There is nothing wrong with it but people like to judge. I won’t pretend that I haven’t but at the end of the day if a relationship is a happy and supportive one what does it matter?

While Presdient-Elect Emmanuel Macron was on the campaign trail against far-right Le Pen, the media picked up on the fact that his wife, Brigitte, is 25 years his senior. Details then followed that they met when she was his drama teacher at school, his parents were shocked that he had entered into the relationship and she was married at the time. What media sources such as the Daily Mail failed to report is the fact that they did not enter into a relationship until he was 18. Instead the focus for some media sources was that of the fact that it wasn’t classed as a ‘normal’ relationship. He was the younger of the relationship but my no means in a position of less control than the other.


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There is an opinion – which is archaic – that a woman should be a ‘belonging’ to a man. They should step back and let their older husband shine while taking a back seat. From following the French Presidential election it doesn’t look asif that will be the case for Brigitte Macron, and rightly so. She is the glamorous, intelligent and no doubt happy in her relationship with her husband. The age gal in this relationship has become an obsession with the media however the age gap between the American President and his younger wife hasn’t made numberous headlines. Why is this?

The above paragraph makes me sound like I am of the thinking that what is done to one should be done to all, which I don’t. In the grand scheme of things I don’t give a shit if Melania is how ever many years younger than her husband. The real issue is the fact that her husband is a mysotginistic, racist and all round vile character. Yet why should the Macron’s be faced with a barrage of questions and hear say on their relationship and others are not? Is it purely because the older in the marriage is a female?

Society seems to be obsessed with other peoples relationships – be it romantic or not – what I don’t understand is why? When it comes to age gaps in relationships there is generally the opinion of “daddy issues” or “mummy issues” plastered over it in a bit to make the relationship acceptable in others eye. Really, when it comes down to it, the couple that are at the centre of this labelling aren’t actually arsed about what others have to say about the fact that she is 20+ years his senior.

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