“When faced with the reality of a bad date, I think most people have the reaction of “Oh chirst I have to get out of here” and then you end up in the bathroom sending your SOS text.”
Bad dates are pretty common ground when you are in your 20s and searching out your one true love, 99.9% of people have experienced them and if you haven’t then you are pretty darn lucky. When it comes down to what makes a date bad, it can depend very much on the person going on the date as well as external circumstances. Location, for example.
While doing a little bit of background research for this post, I came across a definition of bad date that I had never heard of. Google it. Go on, I dare you – do it after you’ve read this though (A)
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I am single and have been for most of my adult life. Dating, I think, is something that everyone experiences and not every one you go on will be a ‘good’ date. I’ve been on dates where I’ve been told that the man won’t be buying me a drink because I can get my own. Fine, I am all for female equality and I infact can buy my own drink however the way in which the message was communicated was first of all rude and showed very poor manners. Secondly, it was done only when said male had been to the bar for drinks – not plural – and come back with a single pint for himself. Did he think I wouldn’t notice? Would I sit there and sip on the ice that was slowly melting in my glass from the drink I bought for myself while I waited for him to turn up 20 minutes late because he had to send an email? He very well may have to send said email but come on!
What consitues a ‘bad date’, in my opinion, is an incredibly personal definition. What may be a green light for one, could well be a big old Stop sign for another. It’s all relative.
When faced with the reality of a bad date, I think most people have the reaction of “Oh chirst I have to get out of here” and then you end up in the bathroom sending your SOS text. Before long your flatmate has called you about a boiler related issue. (That may or may not be a true story…) Something I think that is important to bare in mind – even on a horribly, awful date – is that there is no excuse for being rude or hurtful. For all you know, your date could be well be having a swell time. You can by all means make your excuses and leave, you don’t have to get an SOS call to get you out of there because let’s be honest we can 100% see through those.
The same goes with ghosting. That new trend that seems to be taking over the dating landscape. What happened to being polite and letting someone down gently? A quick What App saying you had a lovely evening but you don’t think that it’ll work out is much nicer than point blank never hearing from someone again and forever wondering what if. Am I right?
What have your bad dates been like?